Detached Love

“If you love a flower, don’t pick it up. Because if you pick it up it dies and it ceases to be what you love. So if you love a flower, let it be. Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation.” (Osho)

True love never requires possession or domination. True love is an act of appreciation for someone or something that brings us joy. It’s an unconditional love with no strings attached.

Conventional wisdom will have you believe that love involves possession or domination but that is far from what true love is. I often times see a lot of romantic relationships that suffer because either both of the individuals is trying to hold on to each other or one of the individuals is trying to hold on to the other person. By demanding someone we love to belong to us, we interfere with their freedom.

Why do so many relationships suffer?

It comes down to a few important factors:

1. Both parties treat each other like possessions — Firstly, you don’t own anyone. Secondly, you especially don’t own your significant other if you are in a relationship. Often times, people treat others that they are in a relationship with as though they are some kind of object that they need to hold onto and constantly watch over. This is textbook neuroticism at work and it eventually leads to the break up of a relationship or…