Embrace All Of Your Feelings

“Flowers are restful to look at. They have neither emotions nor conflicts.” (Sigmund Freud)

“Close-up of a pink rose” by Kirushanthan Krishnapillai on Unsplash

There are no wrong feelings.

There may be wrong actions in the sense of actions contrary to the rules of human communication, but the way you feel towards other people — loving, hating, so on and so forth are not wrong.

So, to try and force one’s feelings to be other than what they are is truly absurd and furthermore, dishonest.

But, you see, the idea that there are no wrong feelings is an immensely threatening idea to people who are afraid to feel in any case. This is one of the peculiar problems of our culture. In our culture, we are terrified of our feelings because they take off on their own and we think that if we give them any scope and don’t immediately beat them down then they will lead us into all kinds of chaotic and destructive action.

It’s so funny that we in our Western culture today say this kind of thing. We, who do more chaotic and reckless kind of action than anybody ever did.

But if, for a change, we would allow our feelings and look upon their comings and goings as something as beautiful and as natural and necessary as changes in the weather; the going of night and day and of the four seasons then we would be at peace with ourselves because what is…