Here’s Why You’re Confusing Solitude With Loneliness

Zaid K. Dahhaj
6 min readJun 9, 2018

Loneliness expresses the pain of being alone and solitude expresses the glory of being alone.” (Paul Tillich)

Loneliness is much different from solitude and many people confuse the two with each other.

If you like yourself, you have no problem with being alone. When you accept yourself completely, you’ll enjoy having quiet time away from all the external noise. You’ll feel happy when alone and also when surrounded by other people.

Few get this.

Defining Terms

Let’s go through the definition of both loneliness as well as solitude and explore the differences between the two so that we don’t get stuck in a state of confusion:

Loneliness: The state of sadness because one has no friends or company; isolation.

Solitude: The state or situation of being alone.

So, from these two quick definitions, we get a basic idea of the major difference between loneliness and solitude. The major difference between the two states is the way that the individual approaches the topic of being alone mentally.

Picture, you are someone who is struggling with feeling lonely even though you might have people around you. One of the major reasons why you feel lonely in this situation is because of how you think about being alone. There is nothing inherently wrong with being alone. In fact, an argument can be made that you are creating the negative feeling associated with being alone.

Now, picture yourself on the opposite side of the spectrum. You are someone who thoroughly enjoys being alone because it allows you to have space within your life. It allows you to recharge and step away from the craziness of daily life and just bask in the present moment. One of the major reasons why you feel content when you’re alone is because of how you mentally approach the situation. You look forward to being alone and take advantage of the sweet time that is offered to you.

What’s the difference?

The major difference between these two versions of yourself is how you look at being alone. The version of yourself that can’t stand being alone has many limiting beliefs surrounding…

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Zaid K. Dahhaj

Sleep King. Helping family men fix fatigue in less than 42 days without letting loved ones suffer. Founder: The 2AM Podcast.