How To View Yourself Objectively

Zaid K. Dahhaj
5 min readApr 30, 2018

Those who improve with age embrace the power of personal growth and personal achievement and begin to replace youth with wisdom, innocence with understanding, and lack of purpose with self-actualization.” (Bo Bennett)

To view oneself objectively is a really difficult task and often requires the individual to take a step back from their life so to speak. It requires virtues such as humility, patience, brutal honesty, self discipline, and so much more so that you can eventually get to a point where you can make high level decisions that will help you grow in your overall life as opposed to being at the will of your emotions and vices.

I have personally seen the result of becoming too attached to one’s life and becoming so absorbed by the circumstances that one loses sight of the bigger picture and what actually matters. The end result is not pretty whether that means dealing with the relationship to your own self or dealing with an intimate relationship. A lack of focus on becoming objective in your life brings with it unnecessary suffering and a calcification of one’s mindset.

What does it mean to be objective about oneself?

To be objective about yourself and your own life is to essentially not become attached to what is actually going on in your life.

What exactly do I mean by this on a practical level?

Let me provide you some examples:

It is the ability to watch yourself becoming undisciplined in let’s say your diet and allowing yourself to move towards a state of discipline, simply through awareness. You can start eating healthier simply by taking an objective view of your unhealthy circumstance over time.

It is the ability to understand when you are about to get into a fight with your girlfriend and interrupting that unconscious pattern that consistently shows up. You are able to detach yourself from the potential of having a fight and choose to respond in a different manner.

It is the ability to detach yourself from a situation in which you normally react and instead choose to respond to the situation.

Why is it so hard to be objective about oneself?



Zaid K. Dahhaj

Sleep King. Helping family men fix fatigue in less than 42 days without letting loved ones suffer. Founder: The 2AM Podcast.