Why It’s A Blessing To Be Told You’re Not Good Enough

Zaid K. Dahhaj
4 min readJul 16, 2021

Being told you’re not good enough is a gift, but you’ve been conditioned by society to believe otherwise because conglomerates stand to gain little from your enlightenment.

There’s little chance to bullshit yourself after feeling utterly embarrassed, especially when it comes at the cost of your ego.

I live intensely with the understanding that I need to seek constructive criticism. Without it, I am doomed to mediocrity.

Yet when I look at most people, the only thing I see is the manifestation of desperately trying to avoid a reality check.

Red Pill Or Blue Pill?

If you’re familiar with The Matrix, you understand the difference between the red and blue pill.

The former represents reality as it is without distortion — a truth serum.

The latter, on the other hand, clouds your perception through manipulation.

A reality check is symbolic of the red pill because it leaves you speechless.

When you’re confronted with Truth, it reveals how you demonize the external and shirk responsibility.

The most disgusting quality in an individual is the habit of avoidance — the incessant need to navigate around suffering for comfort.

I get it, there’s a strong biological component to why this happens, but there’s also a reason why we developed the capability to think rationally. Our brains can help us transcend the instinctual urge.

You have the power to achieve, but not if you’re unwilling to confront the darkest aspects of yourself and reality.

The Athletic Mentality

I owe this mindset to my athletic journey as a competitive soccer player.

Over the years, I’ve learned a lot about life through competition and sport, whether it was from coaches who shifted my perspective or poor performances that forced me to double down on the practice.

You don’t have to look like an athlete to cultivate this mentality.

Zaid K. Dahhaj

Sleep King. Helping family men fix fatigue in less than 42 days without letting loved ones suffer. Founder: The 2AM Podcast.