Why You Must Take Control Of Your Identity

Zaid K. Dahhaj
4 min readJan 19, 2019

“Unlike a drop of water which loses its identity when it joins the ocean, man does not lose his being in the society in which he lives. Man’s life is independent. He is born not for the development of the society alone, but for the development of his self.” (B. R. Ambedkar)

You cannot become healthy if you identify with your sick self.

You cannot become wealthy if you identify with your broke self.

You cannot become creative if you identify with your consumer self.

You cannot become deeply grounded in masculinity if you identify as a boy.

You cannot become deeply grounded in your femininity if you identify as a girl.

You cannot become disciplined if you identify as lazy.

You cannot become trustworthy of you identify as fundamentally dishonest and manipulative.

You cannot become responsible if you identify as a victim.

You cannot become liberated if you identify as a prisoner.

You cannot be mentally healthy if you identify with anxiety and depression.

You cannot be sober if you identify as an addict.

Do you see the common theme here?

Your actions follow your identity.

Be very careful who you identify with.

You must take control of how you would like to become and create an identity around that in a sustainable way.

Why is identity so powerful?

Identity is powerful for a number of reasons, but you only need to deeply understand just one:

We absolutely follow through with who we believe we are at both the subconscious and conscious level.

We take actions based upon who we believe we are.

It’s that simple, yet it’s profound in how it’s tentacles reach out to every facet of your life.

Identity is the foundation of all sustainable change.

If we can leverage identity, then we can leverage the power of sustainable change.



Zaid K. Dahhaj

Sleep King. Helping family men fix fatigue in less than 42 days without letting loved ones suffer. Founder: The 2AM Podcast.